My daughter is 5 years old. Just like a typical 5 year old, she has meltdowns and temper tantrums, and this can be very...frustrating to say the least.
I just read part of a new book, The Educator’s Handbook for Inclusive School Practices. I highly recommend this book for anyone who wants to read about having fully inclusive classrooms. In this book, the authors state that we must look at behavior as a way of communication. If a student or child is misbehaving, they are trying to communicate.
I relate this behavior to brain development as well. At times students honestly don’t know how to manage their behavior because their frontal lobe is still developing. Their frontal lobe helps with their executive functioning skills and being able to manage emotions, including appropriate means of communication. For more information about the frontal lobe and executive functioning please check out this short post from Harvard University. We need to teach them skills to manage their behavior internally to help them develop good communication habits.
In my classroom, I strive to teach my students the way I would like my children to be taught. I use the love and passion I show for my own children with my students every day. There are a couple of strategies I learned from The Educator’s Handbook for Inclusive School Practices that I use:
As an adult, it’s my responsibility to remember this information about misbehavior...especially when I feel like I want to pull my hair out because my daughter is screaming at the top of her lungs. Is it really misbehavior or just miscommunication? What strategies have you found effective when dealing with misbehavior or miscommunication in your life? Please feel free to post!